In case you were wondering, in case you really didn’t know, just because someone isn’t ‘allowed’ to do something doesn’t mean that they won’t just go ahead and do it anyway. What am I talking about? I’m talking about schools. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my school district and I LOVE the professionals that take care of the boy every day at school. I am so, very blessed and LUCKY.
Have you seen the horror stories on social media and in the news? Have you seen how professionals are abusing special needs kids? No? Then you need to get educated because it is out there and it is sickening. Stories of teachers and aides verbally belittling children – my heart HOPES that they think it is some form of misguided tough love or ignorance. Not that it would make the pain and suffering of the child and family any less, but it would help me to keep a view of society as being largely of good people. People trying to do the best they can and just screwing up royally instead of just being horrible people at heart. I mean we all mess up, we are all human. I am learning more and more that we aren’t all humane – there is a difference.
We can all agree abuse is horrible and when it happens it makes news. Or at least the rounds on social media….
But what about those that aren’t ‘allowed’ to do certain things or those who are ‘supposed to’ provide certain things who don’t follow the rules? Then what?
Oh sure, families who have Autistic children who have behavior plans for school and children who are frustrated because of their inability to communicate are ‘supposed to’ be given special consideration regarding the regular school rules. I mean you would naturally assume that an Autistic child who is suffering a meltdown or shows inappropriate judgment in social skills would have a different way of being handled through the school. These kids are not to be expelled, suspended or held in detention because of the behavior that they are trying desperately to learn how to control. The school staff and service providers are not only trying to educate Autistic children about traditional items such as math, reading and science; they are trying to teach these children social skills, life skills and coping mechanisms so that they can function out in the world after their school days are over. Just as you wouldn’t treat a 5 year old who commits a crime the same way as a 50 year old who commits the same crime. As a society we recognize limits when it comes to age, emotional state and cognitive ability.
Why am I going on about all of this? Why am I upset today about this idea? Because an amazing family got a phone call today that their Autistic, non-verbal, high-support child who has a 1-1 aide at school was suspended from elementary school. He hit another student on the back and grabbed a staff member’s neck area and left a mark. An elementary aged, special needs child.
I kid you not
I was amazed
Now I hear your brain going and you are thinking that this family can just fight the school. Get that kid back into school by throwing a fit and threatening lawyers and going public or any other number of options.
I say to you – This amazing family is already tired and beat down. This amazing family has to deal with so much every single day in their struggle to keep their child safe. This amazing family puts in so much effort to try and help their child to learn and communicate. This amazing family struggles with trying to get their child to sleep and eat and even learn to use the bathroom. Does a family who is putting all of their effort into trying to help their child in every way possible during a tiresome battle REALLY need another battle to fight? Sure, they will take it on if that is what is required. I was inspired when this mom said she was busting out the essential oils and getting ready to do what needs to be done. They are amazing people who will blaze a trail so that others don’t have to fight the fight too.
But it saddens me that this battle needs to be fought.
I thought there was better understanding out there.