The other night Hubby and I used a service at Family Autism Center in Rochester, NY.
For $20 they cared for The Boy at their facility for a few hours.
Was that ideal?
The center was over an hour away. I had to find a sitter for the other kids (thanks to my Teen that wasn’t too difficult!). And it wasn’t enough time for us to do anything but grab a very quick dinner and a bit of ice cream. To top it all off, my son was scared to enter the building and took off running down the street!
But the staff at the center was amazing and he had a great time. Most importantly, for those few hours, we were just like any other couple. I didn’t even worry once about him. Hubby and I left holding hands, chatting and enjoying each other’s company without having a child interrupt us or the dirty dishes in the sink distracting us. We ate and headed back to a happy child who was ready to go home!
To expect Autism parents to have a weekly or even monthly date night out on the town is probably ridiculous. I know it is for us. But we try to spend time together each week – even if it is just for an hour alone in the car together on our way to get The Boy from school! Do what works for you, but DO take time. Want some guidelines?
- Time for yourself — An hour or 2 a week is a must. 1 hour a night is ideal, but do what you can. Trust me, I know it’s hard.
- Time as a couple — At home, try to take 30 minutes a day to connect with your spouse. If that seems unrealistic because of your schedules, at least get a good 1-2 hours a week together. I’m talking alone time. Not we are going to chat about the kids, house, work or anything else that must be done. Time to just hang out and enjoy each other. If you only are getting an hour, don’t spend it watching TV or on your phone either. Spend time connecting with each other.
- Get out with your significant other without the kids once a month if you can. Once every 3 months needs to be a priority!
Share with me your creative ways you keep your sanity! What do you do? How do you grab time alone? What are your secrets for finding time for your spouse? I would love to hear from you!
I’ve started to share Saturday Stories to make it a little easier to relax for a few moments each day. These are short stories you can read through in just 20-30 minutes. The idea is to give you a way to quickly find something you can enjoy when the opportunity presents itself. If your life is like mine – you may suddenly find yourself with a few moments of quiet. By the time you decide how to spend the time, the moment is over. Instead, visit the Story section of the blog and in seconds you can have your Stress Away oil on your body and an entertaining story in front of you!