Ugh, we all seem to have a love/hate relationship with the dentist, don’t we? Okay, maybe it’s more a hate/hate relationship for most. Me? I actually don’t mind the dentist. I would imagine that is because I don’t have any issues with my teeth. I actually don’t go very often because it of is just too difficult for me to try to get away to get it done – and still I have no problems. The teen and my daughter don’t mind the dentist either.
It’s not like that for the boy.
He is beyond terrified.
To be fair, it is not just the dentist that he has trouble with. Anywhere that has a medical feel to it makes him very nervous. I can’t blame the poor kid, really I can’t. When he was around 2 1/2 years old he began to vomit 20+ times a day. I took him to the pediatrician and he threw up 3 times during the 5 minutes I was in the office talking to the doctor. Needless to say he sent me directly over the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia to get checked out. They poked and prodded, took blood and ran tests with no real answers. It all went down hill from there. Over the next couple of months we tried all manner of fixes, but ended up at the hospital several times for the poor boy to be poked and prodded some more. Ever since then, he has been terrified of anyone in scrubs, with a stethoscope and anywhere that resembles a doctor’s office or hospital.
Oh, what was wrong? He has about 12 food allergies that are extremely mild and barely register as being allergies. If he eats one of those foods, he barely reacts at all. Problem was that he was living off of most of those foods 🙁 We cut out the problem foods, started to eat much healthier, the vomiting stopped and hasn’t returned. YAY!!
Problem is that he is still upset over the idea of going to the doctor’s office.
He doesn’t have the greatest teeth because he spent almost 8 months constantly bathing his teeth in stomach acid. That acid ate away at his teeth and caused his teeth to rot. So he had 12 cavities throughout his mouth that needed to be filled. I thought it would be best to give him ‘the gas’ and just hold him down to get the cavities filled.
So we did
I DO NOT BLAME THE CHILD FOR BEING AFRAID OF THE DENTIST
It was a very bad “mom decision”, but hind-sight is 20/20. At the time I thought I was doing the best thing for him. Yeah, not anymore.
We had to go to the dentist to have a tooth checked out. Silly me, I thought it was a baby tooth and was hoping it would fall out before needing further attention. I mean the boy won’t let you actually LOOK in his mouth while you brush his teeth. You have to get in and out quickly, so a good job and it all has to be by the sense of touch because you can’t see a darn thing!! Don’t get me wrong, I am thrilled that he lets me brush his teeth at all. I know of families that have it a LOT rougher than I do!!
My point – we went to the dentist and the tooth that is a problem, the one that is now causing him significant pain, is an adult tooth. And there is a 6 MONTH waiting period before they can take him in to do anything about it.
of being in pain
I don’t even know the extent of the pain because the boy can’t tell me. All I can do is guess by his actions. Well, he started smashing his head violently – I’m thinking that is a sign of pain. And we have to wait 6 months before they can handle it.
Why so long? Well, my boy will need to be put under general anesthesia in order to have the work done. There is a 6 month waiting list at the hospital because there are SO MANY children who need this type of treatment.
Let that sink in for a minute
There are so many special needs children that need to be put under in order to have dental work done that the waiting list is half a YEAR. And that isn’t just this dentist office. I called around and they all said the same thing.
What has this world come to? Why do we have so many children who need this kind of support? When are we going to take a look around and decide enough is enough – we need to DO something.
Asking any child to deal with dental pain for 6 months is ridiculous.